Rose, it sounds like addiction runs in your family.
I think your Mom just has a full plate. We've all talked with you about this a lot. She keeps trying to do everything in her power to help you get better, she probably feels powerless! I agree 100% with mammo..I think she's telling you your birth story to stress that you ARE wanted, and were wanted back then.
I cannot IMAGINE as a mother myself, how scary it would be for me to have a daughter who was cutting, barely eating some days, depressed, scared, dreading school, afraid to go to the doctor...see what I mean? She's seeing this all around her...and probably feels largely like a failure, especially with your siblings battling addictions, stealing, etc. I think your Mom is probably depressed herself, and that may be why you see her drinking here and there. Thank GOD it isn't out of control, YET. She carries a lot of guilt I'm sure. She probably thinks SHE is directly responsible for your issues.
Look at how she defended you to your aunt? She stepped up and protected you. If she didn't care or just didn't want to be bothered, she wouldn't have gave it a second thought.
Just keep doing what you're doing...keep trying. As YOU feel better, I think SHE will feel better too, and then communicating will get easier. As for your Dad...just leave him be when he's drinking, as much as you can. None of their issues are your issues.
By nature, and due to your disorders, you overthink everything. You have to consider that too. I think you tend to overthink these relationships, and because your self esteem is low, you blame yourself for all the problems in the world.
It will be okay.
Nursegirl makes a good point, your mom may be feeling responsible for your problems due to her chemo treatments.....she wasn't going to give you up! You're seeing a lot and have a chance to learn from everything around you and not take the wrong path. Plus, you should never shove your mom unless you felt you needed to protect yourself and this wasn't the case. There's obviously much more to your story then I am aware of, but I do wish you all the best.
I dont mean to make them upset, or anything like that.
I know my mom wanted me but I
Its my dad I think didnt want me.
It didnt shove my mom, I shoved my sister because she wouldnt get out of my face. I would never shove my mom. My sister and I just dont get a long and never have, shes always been mean to me. The only thing im thankful for about her is when she saved me from drowning, after my other half sister had asked me if I was and then just swam away, then my brother and sister helped me. That story is in my journal entries.
She always calls me mean things. She makes me angry
Baby u need to find a way to get out of there! How old r u? EVERYONE here makes very good points and have given u GREAT advice but the truth is there is no way to cope with ANY type of abuse because. Person should NEVER get abused at all. Not mentally sexually or physically. I am just confused to why u want to stay in a abusive enviornment filled with addiction. Your mom does in fact love u but its her job to protect u with her life even if she has to protect u from your own father. It sounds like your mother and yourself need to get out of that house. U will always b depressed and filled with anger and rage because u r human and no normal balanced human being wants to b abused on any type of level. I am sendiing u a cyber hug and praying for u.
I just turned 16, and the reason I want to stay is because..well there the people ive been with since I was born, there my mom and dad and I love them and despite everything I wouldnt wish for different ones. Sometimes I.would but I never mean it.
My dad doesnt do this to my mom, just me. Thats.how come I think he dont want me somtimes and never did
I am so glad you love your parents and don't want to leave home. You shouldn't even think about that at your age. If it was abusive I would say yes. Seems to me your parents have their own demons too.
Try and show them how much you love them. Believe me that means so much. A loving household is a happy household.
Try and look at things from your parents point of view. Like Nursegirl says, your illness also makes you see things in a more negative light.
We cannot all tolerate our siblings. Fact of life. But parents I believe really do want is best for their children. I bet your parents really worry about you. Can you take the first step and give them and hug and show how much you care about them. Do they care about each other?
You are a sensible girl, and I know you will do the right thing. Please try and take the first step to making your household a more peaceful one.
love to you