Thanks for replying so soon!! :) I have told my parents about my situation and they thankfully are pretty open minded to the whole thing. I was worried they would have some kind a freak out moment that there son was having these thoughts. They didn't and they said that they would do there best to find some help. Just wondering is it possible that deep anxiety, stress, and mental problems can be heredity? I know my dad suffered with anxiety for a while, and my grandmother also suffered with extreme cases of mental problems like mine (believing things that aren't true)
Also I'm not sure if this could have influenced my HOCD, but I am a music major and very artistic person. I'm around gays a lot and I also I have cousin on my dads side who is also a music major who turned out to be gay.
Anyways the fear of turning gay never crossed my mind until recently. That's why I know it's HOCD or some type of OCD. I never questioned my sexuality before. I was always 100% positive I was straight. But all this fear, anxiety, and stress has made me believe I'm something I'm not. It feels SOOOO real, like as if it is telling me i want to be with a man. But deep down I know I never could or want to be with a man. And with all this anxiety and stress my attraction to women is not as strong as it was at all. Which freaks me out even more!
I just want to live life the way it was before. I was really happy with myself. Thanks I will let you know how things go in the future. Sorry I'm explaining everything in so much detail. And I will use the advice you gave me!
People with OCD tend to go to the dark side in any number of ways. My belief in whether people are gay or not is steeped in genetics. I think you are born gay or you are not. So the fact that being with another man turns you off means that you are not gay. There really is no question here. All the testing you are doing is just making this thought stick around. What you need to do is say to yourself "I LIKE WOMEN AND ALWAYS HAVE, ENOUGH." Comparing yourself to other men is very common. I notice other women and whether their hair looks nice or their body is better than mine. It is just me comparing myself to them because hell I want to look as good as the next 48 year old woman out there.
Since you have had other OCD irrational thoughts, do you think it is time to get some professional help? The more stress you have the worse OCD gets and it really is a good idea to have some cognitive behavioral therapy tools under your belt so that you can help yourself. So think about talking to your parents about getting some counseling.I have a son your age and I would hate to think he was suffering in silence when all he had to do is talk to me so that I can get him some help.
In the mean time here is a breathing technique you can use to help calm yourself down. YOu take a deep breath in through your nose and hold it for 5 seconds..count this out in your head. Then you let it all out through your mouth. YOu can do this in any situation and nobody will even know you are doing it. Practice it when you can.
Also, try to stop the testing. just say "NO" when you start to even go there. Good luck and let me know how you are doing.
Also I've had other kind of fears (ocd) in the past. When I was a freshman in high school I had a fear that I had HIV for about a week, even though I am still a virgin. And I also kept thinking about my breathing fearing that I would stop breathing in the middle of the night. Am I just prone to ocd??