She wants you to hang around and let her do what she wants to do? That is not love. I would highly suggest you end your torment and quit allowing yourself to be manipulated by her. Wanting to have fun, live with the girls, go on trips and not have you interfere with it is very selfish and not the actions of a woman in love. She sounds like a great manipulator and hey! You played right along! She set her priorities, its time you did the same.
It's so easy to blame people's childhood's on how they act in their current relationships but it's not your job to see why she did what she did. But if that's what you need to gain closure than that's what you need. I hope you can move on. One day she will realize what she had lost and she will most likely come back. Hopefully, you will have already moved on and won't fall for it.
Yes you are pretty much right on! Yesterday she told me to move on and forget about her so there is nothing else I can do. You see she was raised by her mother who was always in abusive relationships and had to witness that through her childhood then when she was 14 she got in a relationship with was turned out to be a controlling, drug dealing, addict who cheated on her etc. That lasted 4 years. Then she met me after they broke up for good. We hit it off from the beginning on so many levels. She was always hesitant jumping into another relationship but we had such a strong connection that it was hard not to. She tried fighting this idea of needing time to find herself the whole relationship i think and now she is holding strong... At least I know that so i can move on now.
July, you're so easy. You are her comfort zone. And she can go to it when ever she feels like it.....because she can. Plain and simple. I do it all the time.
I choose to be single mostly because I can have what I want. And guys like you are the ones I will target because you give it. And when yall overwhelm me with too much attention that I'm not asking for.........I give the ole "i need space" line.
You're not the one, sorry.
It'll take time to get over her, but you have definitely learned from it. That's the positive thing.
Take care.
miami has it right, you are her comfort zone, she wants to party , play around and she wants to make sure she has someone to come home to, you are her comfort zone when she is tired, when she rests again, off she goes luck jo,
This girl is playing you like a fiddle. She basically wants to have fun and do what she wants to do when she wants to do it, hence the 3 requests for space. It is because she wants to live the single life and knows deep down that she can come running back to you for comfort whenever she feels like it. You are always there waiting for her with open arms. I can most confidently say she was with other men during this time. For whatever reasons it didn't work out with them, she knew that she had you waiting in the wings. She doesn't sound mature enough for a relationship and she certainly doesn't seemed concerned with how you feel. She also used that excuse that she now was ready to move to the next level right after you told her how you felt, just to make you feel guilty and to keep you on this begging trip. Apologizing to her, telling her you were wrong and that you want her. Her answers being like, nope too late, you already ruined it. Am I close? She is hurtful and selfish and loves the fact that you chase her. She's not good for you. You will see that when the time is right, you will find a woman who will easily reciprocate the same feelings. You shouldn't have to give someone time to see what a gem they have in you. Good luck.