Please help me if you have an alternative to me leaving my husband

[KAG71]

Where to start.....  For those of you that don't know me my husband is on oxycontin for severe back pain.  He was on 640mg a day, and is currently tapering this down.  He has managed to taper to down to 440mg in the last month which the doc says is very good.

However, the problem is with his sleeping (or lack of it).  He has always had problems sleeping but since being on oxycontin it has got much much worse.   We have both mentioned it to the doc who tells us that it is because of the oxy, however, since tapering it has just got worse.

Since xmas day there has been three separate occassions when he has become so tired that he has literally fallen asleep round peoples houses, eating, on the floor etc etc.  Not only this but he hallucinates, he talks a load of nonsense and treats me like **** (which is soooo different to the "normal" him).    I love him so much and have tried so so hard to help him but it just keeps happening over and over again despite him saying it won't.    It has now happened two nights in a row, which is odd because he (after several hours of confusion etc) did finally crash and actually sleep last night.   I have now reached the end of my tether and really cannot take any more, I have now ran out of options and the doc just won't help us.   My husband is falling apart before my very eyes and our marriage is crumbling.  Please if anyone can help us I am desperate!!!

Thanks for listening guys.

Karen

[KAG71]

Snowflake

You're right I know I need to think about myself too.  Trouble is I have a 12 year old daughter , my own accounts business to run (January time is the busy re tax return deadline being 31/1) as well as coping with helping my husband!!  That leaves very little "me time".  January will be very tough, but come February things will hopefully be easier.  I get very stressed out sometimes because of how hard I have to work, and when I get stressed out I know that I sometimes snap at my husband and have very little time to help him as much as he needs sometimes.   Anyone know any good de-stressing ideas??  I need to learn to cope better I think, its just so difficult sometimes.  However, just venting on here helps, so thanks for being there.

Smartyetstupid (Kells)

Thanks again.   He actually managed to go until 7.30pm before he took his tablets, and then he only took three.  So he managed to cope yesterday on just 3 80's tablets.   I know that he loves me very much and I know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, its just a very very long tunnel and I hope that I can cope until we get to the end of it.  I have told him that I have been posting on here, and as he is a member of here too he has said that he will take a look at this thread.   I have to say that I am amazed at the response I have had on this.   Its just such a help to know that others are there to listen and help in any way that they can, so many many thanks to you all.

Karen

[SmartYetStupid]

Today he has been upstairs in bed all day, but we did at least see the new year in together which was lovely.   Without telling me (until just a few mins ago) he decided that he was going to try and see how long he could go without oxycontin at all today.   It is now 5pm here and he still has had no tablets at all which is amazing.   I have done as advised and just left him be today, just checked on him occassionally to make sure he was okay etc.    Its cool that he has managed without tablets today (so far) but I just wish he had told me what his plans were!!
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Honey?  He's doing this not just for himself, but for you, too.  If we could all live freely in a drug induced state without affecting those around us, believe me, we would!  

He loves you and he knows he has a life beyond the drugs... And I am sure that includes you.  You're doing fine, chica.  Just fine.  Hang in there, keep posting, and share with him what you read!  Help him in his struggle.  It will bring you closer together and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that.

Remember, I am here if you need me.  Vent to me, not your husband.

Kells

[TrayCee]

Never underestimate the POWER OF PRAYER!

[Pleasehelpme91]

Pray to Christ, Even if you don't believe just say "if you are real, please help me". You have tried everything else. Why not?

[Believer1179]

My personal opinion after reading a little of these messages is that YOU need to do some MAJOR research on ADDICTION and to WHAT he is addicted to. ALSO, you definately need to seek out another Dr. that is more willing to help him.

If you REALLY love him....it is for better OR WORSE....

Addiction is one of the very hardest things a person and the people who love that person can possibly go threw.  It takes lot's of SUPPORT for the person to become sober.

He desperately NEEDS YOU, I promise.....He doesn't realize how he's treating you because he is not sober AND he is WITHDRAWLING.....which is a LIVING HELL to go through...consider that too.

I know I am not in your situation...but can relate and hope I gave you some helpful advice?

Remember......do some reaserching.....KNOWLEDGE is key here!

Good Luck and Best Wishes!

[snowflake620]

you and your husband are going through some very difficult times right now but things will get better,you need to take care of you too sweetie so many times we addicts are so wrapped up in our own troubles we forget the ones we love thinking they will always be there and never realizing how badly they are hurting right along with us so again take time for yourself you can't help any one if you don't take care of you first.good luck to you and keep posting we will be here for you day or night
snowflake