Please help me if you have an alternative to me leaving my husband

[KAG71]

Where to start.....  For those of you that don't know me my husband is on oxycontin for severe back pain.  He was on 640mg a day, and is currently tapering this down.  He has managed to taper to down to 440mg in the last month which the doc says is very good.

However, the problem is with his sleeping (or lack of it).  He has always had problems sleeping but since being on oxycontin it has got much much worse.   We have both mentioned it to the doc who tells us that it is because of the oxy, however, since tapering it has just got worse.

Since xmas day there has been three separate occassions when he has become so tired that he has literally fallen asleep round peoples houses, eating, on the floor etc etc.  Not only this but he hallucinates, he talks a load of nonsense and treats me like **** (which is soooo different to the "normal" him).    I love him so much and have tried so so hard to help him but it just keeps happening over and over again despite him saying it won't.    It has now happened two nights in a row, which is odd because he (after several hours of confusion etc) did finally crash and actually sleep last night.   I have now reached the end of my tether and really cannot take any more, I have now ran out of options and the doc just won't help us.   My husband is falling apart before my very eyes and our marriage is crumbling.  Please if anyone can help us I am desperate!!!

Thanks for listening guys.

Karen

[coldsweats]

Just be there for him!! They gave support groups much like this that you can physically go to the offer help to family members of addicts! I used to get soooo angry and moody on drugs and my other half which is the calmer half would walk away for a bit re group and finally after coming clean to him did he finally realize why I was the way I was! They say that certain situations in life either tear a couple apart or bring you closer together! I support you in whatever decision is best for you and you family!! Hang in there sister! With the right support and will to get clean I know it will be amazing in the long run! Xoxo

[flmagi]

It's true torture going threw withdrawals and the desperation for sleep is the worst. If I had fallen asleep on a bed of nails, I would have been thrilled. And if anyone had woke me from that sleep, I would have gone for their throat...literally.  Let him sleep. Walk away. Just let him know you're there for him and when he needs your help, he'll let you know. Just be there when he needs the support or something to drink or just a smile.  He's going threw this torture and heII for a reason, I'm guessing the reason is you and your daughter.
Good luck to you and him.

[KAG71]

ok guys its' now 4am here so gonna try and get a few hours sleep if I can.   Will check again tomorrow.

Thanks to you all for listening.

Karen

[KAG71]

correction to my last post s/b work not walk oops sorry guys!

[KAG71]

Walking away does seem the best option and I'll try.  Thank u so much for your assistance.  However smartyetstupid you say "business be damned", trouble is without the business, theres no income (hubby doesn't walk due to his health problems), and no income we are all out on the streets, so I feel I am in catch22 here.  Trying so hard to juggle  my husbands needs and the needs of my business and income etc.

[usarmymedic1]

than remove you and hin into a room with out danger. and if he is threatening self harm 911 not just for after it happens EMT's have to know behavieral issues also