Thank you everyone for your feedback. I am very grateful for it. I like the idea about attending meetings for my drinking. My wife will support that. She knows that I am planning to see an addiction specialist.
I will continue to taper, not drink, pick up the book mentioned above, continue working out. It is going to take work day in and day out.
I just get in a rut and go crazy sometimes. I don't get it. I'm a flawed human being. Hopefully I don't destroy the relationships with people that care about me and love me.
Yes, Changing your thought pattern is paramount for change.
The power of positive thinking. Use self talk to give yourself hope.
Please re-read this thread we have given you suggestions to help you.
Stick with the 6mgs of subs don't go up.
From 6mgs continue your taper down.
You have to be viligant in your recovery.
Taking small steps everyday moving forward.
Recovery is a marathon not a sprint.
No more drinking.
Yes, read books on recovery, self help, positive thinking.
Get to a meeting, church, pray, reschedule the therapy.
Please don't fight with your wife.
You can do a new thing. Please believe in yourself.
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting
Different results.
We are here my friend,
Keep talking to us,
Sending prayers,
Debbie
"The Feeling Good Handbook," by David D. Burns is one I suggest to many. Sub is a long detox, so while rehab is a great thing, I think it would have to be a six month stay to really get off of subs,IMO. The above book has writing assignments and exercises that take time and give the mind something to focus on. It deals with tunnel vision, all-or-nothing thinking, disqualifying the good, etc...these are the foundation of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I used that book, while waiting to get to a therapist, and still do. It's less than $10 on Amazon and is a good tool to pass time. When you want a drink, grab that book, when you feel stressed, like you don't know what to do, like you hate yourself, just grab that book and learn a coping skill. Go to a 12 step meeting, church, any and everything you can do NOW. Your wife will appreciate it to, tell her it's for drinking or depression, if you aren't ready to share the whole truth. For now, do whatever it takes to get out of that stinkin thinkin you are in. Any sacrifice will be worth it. If you keep doing the same things, you will keep getting the same things. Do something different, TODAY.
Good morning,
Well, I was drunk and acted like a fool. I'm prescribed 25 8 mg strips a month. So far, I've been good about taking the 6 mg a day. Dr is weaning me. The problem is that I have started drinking more these days. I suppose it's job/life stress. I acted like a idiot last night and did more damage to my relationship with my wife. I'm so ashamed. She and my daughter don't deserve this. I have to stop the drinking now and taper down the sub. I hate myself and then it becomes a cycle. Why is it so hard to get off of this merrigoround? I could use advise and lots of it.
Good morning. When was the therapist appt rescheduled for?
What dose of subs are you prescribed?
Addiction is a Brain disease and we do not get off with just Willpower alone!!
Just like any other disease we need help & support.
What I do not understand is that if you are seeing a Sub Dr, most of them have you go to meetings and get some counseling while you are on this maintenance program. Also they do not let you mix a benzo while on subs and they test your urine almost every week or two.
You are very young and I am proud of you wanting out now. There is all kinds of help out here these days. I have used drank since I was 14 but i just thought it was recreational and as the 60-70-80-90s came in, and went out, it was all about the party..One day at the age 56 I came clean in 2012 off of 3 meds and it was like I went into a coma in my 20s and woke up in my 50s. Please do not let this take or control your life. It sounds like to me that you would do good by seeking some depression groups besides the AA/NA..Drinking with this Sub is a BAD mix and if your Dr knew you most likely would be kicked out, PLUS a BENZO..Man-O-Man you are playing with fire, heck you are walking in the coals.
When I was on my methadone I was adding a illegal drug to it to make it a better high like my crank days..I would take a Benzo late at night to come down..The BIG reason for me to come clean was that i was going to Die. I am not saying that you will, or to scare you, but I was standing up in my kitchen asleep for seconds here and there.I could of fell and hit my head or broke many bones or had a head injury...I also would just drop my bowl of cereal in my lap and wake up..It was just seconds and awake and passed out.It would not happen all the time only when I ran out of Dones or took a break and only used the klons. The dones were still in my system and turned to be coming a downer too..This is no fun and it will scare the you know what out of you..That was one of my BIG wake up calls..
Well I am so sorry to ramble but I have been off for awhile due to some medical issues here..I wish you all the best. Just know that Recovery is not meant to be walked alone. Please go out and seek support..You will be so jazzed you did..YOU are not alone! Hit some AA/NA and some more group support. Hit some of the churches because they offer many things too.
Bless U
Vickie